We all make mistakes, and it’s normal to feel guilty when this happens. However, there are certain things that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be burdened by guilt over. Here are 5.
Putting your needs first
Recognising your own needs and prioritising them, isn’t selfish- in fact, it’s completely healthy to do. Putting other people’s needs before your own all the time can be emotionally and physically exhausting an strain relationships over time. So, the next time you feel bad about doing something for yourself, remember that it’s not only normal and healthy for you and the people you care about.
Do you have trouble saying “no”, even to things you really don’t want to do? Rejecting an offer or invitation for something may seem harsh, but it’s actually the best thing to do because it’s honest, both to yourself and to the other person. Remember that you have the right to say “no”, and you don’t owe anyone an excuse or explanation as to why you’re doing so.
Boundaries are a necessary part of life, whether it’s in your friendships, romantic relationships, or at school or work. Communicating the kind of treatment you deem acceptable as well as what you’re comfortable doing or not doing, is healthy and necessary in building long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.
Ending a friendship or relationship is never easy, and if you’ve decided to do it, you may be feeling guilty about hurting the other person. In such situations, remember all of the reasons why you’d like to end the relationship, and know that it’s better to feel awkward for a little while, instead of being stuck in a toxic relationship, friendship or work environment for years. You have the right to choose who can and can’t be in your life, and you should never feel guilty for protecting yourself.
Honesty may be the best policy, but it’s so hard to do sometimes. While we should’t use honesty as an excuse to be mean, it’s really important to speak your truth. People who care about you will appreciate that you’re telling it like it is- even if it isn’t always what they want to hear at first. Remember to do it in a way that’s considerate and loving.
If you find yourself feeling guilty about any of these things, take a step back from the situation and remind yourself that doing what’s right for you isn’t something to be ashamed of and it won’t always be easy. If you need some advice or just a private chat, get in touch with us on Ask CellCgirl- we’d love to hear from you!