Loss may be a big part of life, but no matter how many times we go through it, we can’t get used to it. And it’s true that we can’t tell people how to grieve because that’s an individual experience that we all deal with differently. However, if you’re grieving, we hope this article helps you understand and get through it a little bit easier.
What is grief?
Grief is the way one responds to unexpected loss. And loss doesn’t necessarily mean losing someone only through death, but it comes in many different forms. A friendship ending, going through a divorce, losing your job, losing yourself because of the loss that you’ve felt or even losing a pet can cause you to grieve.
Signs of grief
Sometimes we’re grieving without even realising it, or simply because we don’t want to accept that that we’re feeling sad, or even lonely due to loss. Some common signs of grief include feeling mixed emotions, emptiness and difficulty concentrating.
These aren’t all the signs and symptoms of grief, but they are some of the most common ones. Remember that the symptoms often differ from person to person. Here’s an article to help you identify how grief can affect many different aspects of a person’s health.
The 5 stages of grief
Going through grief can be a really draining emotional rollercoaster. One moment you’re experiencing certain feelings, and the next moment you’re experiencing the complete opposite. There are different stages to grief and they’re all necessary to get to the point of healing. Here they are:
Denial and isolation: Anyone going through grief will go through this point of their grieving process. This is where we find it difficult to accept that we’ve experienced a loss. And out of fear of being reminded, we rather isolate ourselves by spending a lot of time alone, turning down opportunities to socialise or cutting off people who care about us.
Anger: Once we start to shake off the denial, our emotions come at us raging and that’s when we feel angry. This anger could be directed at those around us, the person or people we’re grieving or even ourselves. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process, so it’s important to accept it but be aware of it before it boils over.
Bargaining: This is the should’ve/could’ve part of the grieving process. Here we think about all the things we should’ve or could’ve done to help the situation.
Depression: The stage where reality finally hits, and we find ourselves struggling to deal with the loss, as well as picking up the pieces. This is often the most overwhelming part of the grieving process.
Acceptance: Accepting things for what they are doesn’t mean that the grieving stops and now you’re happy. But this stage allows you to let others in and accept comfort. It also allows you to understand that although it may still hurt you, you need to make peace with your loss.
We’ve all experienced some form of loss in our lives, so if you’re going through it, you don’t have to do it alone. Seek help and allow your loved ones to comfort you, but don’t rush yourself to the stage of acceptance. Feel every emotion related to your loss, and grieve for as long as you need to. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can reach out to us on Ask CellCgirl or use these contact details to seek help.