We all feel a range of different emotions, and anger is just another one of them. Anger isn’t a feeling to be ashamed of, but since it can be volatile at times, it’s important to find some healthy ways to manage it. Here are a a few.
Meditation is any kind of practice that helps you train your awareness, to achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state. Meditation can help you become more self-aware, which is the first step to managing your anger affectively. You can either follow a guided meditation such as this one, or follow these steps to meditate on your own. Meditation can feel difficult to do at first, but it gets easier the more you practice it. Doing this will also help you feel more prepared to calm yourself the next time you feel angry.
Expressing your emotions through creativity can be very therapeutic. Whether you like writing, singing, video editing or any other creative activity, you can channel your anger into a work of art. If you’re not feeling creative, you can still enjoy the creativity of others by listening to music, reading a book or watching a movie. This is a great way to calm yourself down, or at least feel like you’re not alone in your emotions.
Sometimes, one of the best ways to let go of anger and frustration is to sweat it out. Exercise can boost endorphins- chemical messengers in your body that help relieve pain and make you feel good. Here are a few exercises that’ll help you feel calmer in no time.
Avoid unhealthy habits
It may be tempting to dull your anger with unhealthy habits or reckless behaviour such as using drugs. But, while such habits might distract you for a moment, they can make your anger come back even stronger than before. It’s good to take a look at your current habits and be honest with yourself- are they serving you or just feeding more into your anger? If you identify one or more unhealthy habits, try to reduce and replace them with more positive ones instead.
Listen to your anger
Anger isn’t a comfortable emotion, which is why we often try to avoid it or pretend it’s not there. While sometimes, anger can be irrational, in other situations anger can be necessary. It can alert you to things that need to change, or protect you from getting hurt. Listen to what your anger is trying to tell you, and focus on the areas of your life where your anger is pointing to.
Work with a professional
Sometimes, the anger we feel can be a sign of deeper issues that we need to resolve. This can feel a bit scary or overwhelming, but don’t worry. There are professionals who can help you work through this. You can find a therapist or councillor in your area, or contact SADAG’s helpline on 011 234 4837.
You don’t have to feel powerless to your anger. By managing it daily, you can soothe yourself before it feels too overwhelming to handle. If you’d like to get one-on-one advice from us, you can always message on AskCellCgirl or send us a DM on our socials; Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.