Jealousy is a problem that most high school students know all too well. Here are a few tips on dealing with that green-eyed monster.
If you’re feeling jealous
We all get jealous from time to time. But feeling envious of someone else can turn into a problem when it starts affecting the way we treat them, and the way we feel about ourselves.
Give yourself some tough love
Be honest about how your jealousy impacts you and others at school negatively, and decide why you’d like to stop. This can be difficult to do, because it means you’ll need to set your pride aside and admit you’ve made a mistake or two. The point isn’t to dwell on your mistakes though, but rather to learn from them and see how you can move forward.
Turn jealousy into motivation
Whether you wish you had someone else’s awesome friend group, fit body or outstanding marks, most things you’re feeing envious about are actually things that you can achieve for yourself. Turn those negative feelings into positive inspiration to improve yourself.
Let go of expectations
Feeling pressured to look and act perfect at school, as well as to be on top of your academics and other activities can lead to always comparing yourself to others. It’s good to remember that you are enough, and to feel proud of your positive qualities and talents. Making a list of things you like about yourself can help you put this into perspective.
If someone is jealous of you
Don’t take it too personally. It can be very hurtful and confusing to learn that someone doesn’t like you out of jealousy. That’s why it’s important to recognise it for what it is. Their feelings are theirs, and you shouldn’t see them as a reflection on you as a person.
Don’t engage in the negativity
It may be tempting to want to confront this person, or to defend yourself if they’ve been gossiping about you. Think about this though- why should you involve yourself in someone else’s negativity? Their jealous feelings are their problem, not yours. Try to distance yourself and ignore them, focussing on yourself and positive things in your life instead.
Finding out that someone wishes they had something you have can be an ego booster, and it can even make you feel powerful or confident. Unfortunately, this feeling can be addictive, and you may find yourself trying to one-up your classmates or make them envy you. Remember that everyone is on their own journey, and no one is perfect (yes, that includes you!). Stay humble and remember to be kind to others- it will take you a lot further, and you’ll be a lot happier.
Jealousy is a common feeling, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Even though in larger doses it can lead to bullying, cattiness and lost friendships, it doesn’t have to be that way. Now that you understand that, you’ll have the power to kick that green-eyed monster to the curb and have a happier time at school.